Friday, 29 January 2016

To the online Mummy community...

I've been going back and forth in my mind if I should weigh in on the current state of the "Mummy Community" that is ever so present online... Part of me wants to completely rant about it and the other wants to just ignore it completely.
So I'll meet in the middle and just discuss it...
This next sentence will either make you cheer or make you hate me - but that's ok.
I am so sick to death of seeing posts (blogs, social media updates etc) by women who speak badly about their children, husbands & lives being liked, shared & celebrated and reading posts by privileged women who constantly complain how hard motherhood/parenthood is. 
Being a parent is challenging at times, yes. You are raising a human, at times you will feel like you are failing, like you can't cope, you'll lose your temper & you will have bad days. This is a given. 
Discipline, toilet training, meal times, sleep - it all can be challenging. But is it the hardest thing in the world? No! Not really, I wouldn't even call it hard - just challenging.
I would think it would be pretty hard if I lived in a third world country & had to carry my baby on my back & walk to a river to collect barely drinkable water for my family to survive - that to me is hard.
Parenting in the modern world, not so hard. It is hard for some, but not for a lot.
Living in poverty while trying to provide for your children & create a better life is hard. 
Having a child with special needs or who is very ill or losing your child that would be unimaginably hard. Battling an illness while parenting, that is hard. Being a single parent with no support system, that would also be hard. I admire so many parents from all walks of life who truly have it hard, but those people who actually have hard lives rarely complain. And before we go any further I want to acknowledge that there are parents out there who truly have it hard and they are in situations I doubt I could ever handle.
But I however do not have it hard, chances are if you have the time to kick back in the middle of the day & read this blog post on some form of technology - you also don't have it that hard, you just think you do.
Sitting on your ass whinging how hard being a Mum to your "little assholes" is on social media proves one thing, your life isn't hard - you are spoilt & need a wake up call. And yes, I did read that exact sentence on social media this week. Actually I have lost count of how many versions of that sentence I've read online this week. And these women are applauded because they are "honest & real".
I have been criticised in past posts for being "fake" because I don't "write honestly" about Motherhood. Yes I do, I feel I write the truth. But I write my truth. I don't need to fill my blog with a big pity post about how hard being a Mum is. This is a life I chose, I love what I do, I do not chose to dwell on the challenging times. Every part of life can & will be hard, being a young adult, being single, being engaged, being newly married, being new parents, parents of a toddler/preschooler/young child/teenager, empty nesters, elderly - it all has challenges. You would be simple to think otherwise. 
The moments so many Mothers are wishing away are the moments they will long for one day. Being a parent I don't think we will get any easier as your child grows, sure what is challenging right at this moment may fade but a new challenge will appear. It makes me sad when I read posts such as "I can't wait until my kid is school age and I can have a break". Breaks are important so we can recharge, but wishing away seasons we are in is not good & I assure one day you'll wish your child was little again, gosh I have moments when I long for one more newborn cuddle with my daughter.
The moments when I am feeling negative, low and down I take a good hard look around and that fixes my attitude pretty quickly. I have a very beautiful little daughter who is the light of our lives, I have a home in a safe country not a war zone, my husband has a job, we have a car, we have health care, friends & family who support us, we turn on the tap and there is clean drinking water and by the flick of a switch I have electricity & I have the internet. I can either use the over priced piece of technology that can be often found in my hand for good or bad. Unfortunately the current cool thing to do with your smart phone is whinge on social media how awful your life is and liken your kids to terrorists and belittle your husband. Really? I am a firm believer in what our minds are full of, what we speak of (write) is what our hearts are truly full of. (Luke 6:45)
I try to surround myself with like minded, strong, positive women, women who inspire me to be better, wives who love being wives and Mums who enjoying Mothering - not just say they do - but really love it.
I refuse to enter into this trend, even if society makes it seem so acceptable - I will not post endless status updates on how rough my day is going, because in reality it maybe just a bad day but it isn't that hard. My life is pretty damn easy & most of our problems are trivial. Some days we have really bad days & sharing them makes us get that bit of built up anger off our chests or we can laugh at the situation once we write it down, but I do not have a habit of daily, weekly or even monthly pity parties. 
Everyone has struggles - every single person. Just because I don't share every heartache I've been through recently publicly doesn't make my life perfect, it just means I enjoy some privacy in my life & everything I go through doesn't need to be shared and if I do share it, I share it at the right time. I am not trying to "pretend to be perfect" or create a "fake life" - I just don't have the urge to share private details for sympathy - which sometimes is why people over share online. Yes, some subjects need to be spoken about openly more often; miscarriage, still birth, mental health, domestic abuse, PND etc. - those are sensitive topics that should be shared so other women don't feel alone. 
So, I am not shaming the occasional rant status or a sad life update or having that friend you can vent to, no - not at all. 
But calling your child & spouse awful names online, questioning why you became a parent & just flat out complaining about motherhood is in my opinion - pathetic.
At the end of the day you decided to have this child - make the most of it and be the best you can be for that child. Don't trash your child online. Like put it into perspective - you created this child and you belittle your own little human to pretty much strangers online just so you can feel like you aren't a failure because there are other people who also partake in this bizarre behaviour? I read these threads of women supporting this behaviour & agreeing to having hard days and praising others for hating on Mothering, calling their children dreadful names & making fun of their husbands and I just sit back and think what the actual hell?
Have we lost all respect for our families & any shred of decency & tact?
You decided to have your child, YOU! Your child didn't ask for this life, but you think it's ok to call them awful names or humiliate them? I don't care if you finish the sentence with "oh but I love them" or "I couldn't imagine life without them" - read the start of the sentence where you degrade them - that is the part that sticks and it's awful!
People chose certain careers in life, every job has difficult aspects - just like parenthood but complaining about it doesn't make it any better. That rule applies for anything, if something in your life is hard, not going right and is just falling apart - complaining constantly online will not help you. Make a plan, be proactive, get off your butt and fix it. I do know some people like to inform everyone on the ups & downs of life in one hit online and that's your prerogative but daily "wah poor me, life is hard" posts - they don't help, writing them reminds you how bad your situation is and people lose interest in being supportive. Instead try looking around and find 1 positive in your day, share that. Change your mindset and you will change your life.
Everywhere I look on the internet people tear confident Mothers or women who love Mothering down, bloggers, parenting sites, social media users - so many people. That's bullshit. On one hand the "Mummy Community" wants to celebrate the mediocre & average attempts at parenting and parents who proudly boast they feel like they are failing & just accept that Mums freely call their children "assholes" - but a Mum who thinks she is doing well is torn apart because she thinks she can do this. Are you confused? Because I sure am. You are congratulated for being proud of failure & accepted if you run your children & husband down, but ripped to shreds, made fun of and called a fake & an idiot if you have confidence and don't find Motherhood hard? *insert very confused face here*
On this site I wish to encourage, inspire & lift Mothers up. And I am not writing this to tear those Mothers down - it makes me mad, but each to their own, I am just trying to maybe change a few minds and encourage women to enjoy Mothering & being wives and that it can be a beautiful season in our lives. It is ok to enjoy Motherhood. Maybe these women don't realise how their words look, maybe it's a case of jumping on the band wagon - but I want to encourage these women to change the way they speak about the most important people in their lives.
I know the feeling of being torn down -  it appears no one wants to read you've had a good day or you feel like you've got this parenting thing kind of figured out, they only want to hear how hard done by you are & how much you are failing so they can feel not alone in their failures. 
If you love your husband, enjoy Motherhood & idolise your children - in this day & age you are viewed as some sort of weirdo and you are made fun of as a stepford wife, brainwashed, someone from a cult, a 1950's housewife, a liar, a fake, pathetic, not honest - the list goes on and I've been made fun of in a lot of different & hurtful ways.
But if you get on your iPhone, log onto social media - call your husband awful names, talk about not enjoying being a Mum and how much your life sucks and how you are so hard done by - you are applauded, you are surrounded by like minded women, put on a pedestal & you are accepted. 
I am happy to see women supporting women, but it's almost like a giant pity party of competing who has the hardest life on some sites. 
Motherhood is not that hard, it's challenging. The days can be long & tough, but the work is fulfilling, soul enriching & world changing. We are creating people to send out into the world. What are you sending out?
A lazy, spoilt, self centred brat who complains about life constantly? Because if that's the way you act, that is what you are sending out - children are products of their environments - they will be a version of who you are. 
I strive to send out a well rounded, confident, intelligent, kind, polite young girl who knows she can do anything she sets her mind to if she works hard - someone who seeks the positive even in the darkest situations, who can look after herself and someone that wants to encourage others.
I want my daughter growing up knowing I love her and I don't take a day with her for granted. 
To the mothers who write negatively about their children, I don't doubt the love you have for your children, but one day our kids will know how the internet works & once you put something online it's there forever and do you really want your child reading that you thought they were a proper little asshole and you wanted to lock yourself in the pantry drinking wine at 11am while being alone at home with them? Or that you wrote awful things about their Dad online - for the world to see? Will what you write today, make you proud in 5, 10, 20 years?
How about you look at that way you think and consider how you'll feel in 20 years? Will you long for these days back, will you regret living with the negative mindset & constantly wishing away a beautiful season of your life? 
How about instead of making it the norm to speak badly about our children & husbands we encourage women to speak lovingly about them? Sure, speak about the struggles of daily life, don't pretend everything is just perfect - because life never is, but don't solely focus on the negatives, celebrate the joys, find those small moments in life, in your day that sparkle and make them your focus.
I think it is rude to call our children hurtful names at any time, but especially online, admit they drive you crazy in a status if that is what helps you cope - but if the last thing you ever wrote about your child was calling them an asshole - would you be glad that's what you left behind for them to read? I personally would never call my husband an offensive name online - I am not saying our marriage is perfect or either of us are, we fight at times - but if he went online and ran me down & I did that to him, well that would be the point I question why I am married and how much of an adult I really am. 
So bottom line is, everything in life is tough, parenthood can be challenging - but it is by no means the hardest thing in the world to do - but you will find it more challenging if you sit online all day complaining about how hard you have it. I can almost assure you if you get up, leave your phone on charge and go interact with your "little assholes"  (your words not mine) & actually put your heart more into mothering than complaining about it you may not find it so hard. 
We need to stop making it socially acceptable to be rude & speak awfully about our husbands & kids - these women aren't "brave, raw & honest" - anyone can be crass and ridicule the ones they love - I find these traits childish, attention seeking & sad.
So no, I will not be jumping on the bandwagon of humiliating my daughter & husband and whinging about my life just because I might be having a bad day. That's not my style, there are enough of those writers in the world - I aspire to be an encourager. 
I do not set out to paint my life as a perfect picture, it isn't - please don't think it is - but I don't need to share every low, because guess what - I don't wish to dwell on the negatives, I want to celebrate the positives, embrace every joy & encourage others to do the same. I want to encourage women to love Mothering, to love their husbands and be the best they can be in every aspect of their lives. If you focus on the bad stuff constantly your life will be negative, if you embrace the joy & celebrate the highs your life will positive. 
Give it a go, stop speaking, thinking & writing negatively for 1 week - I am willingly to bet your attitude, thoughts & life will change, for the better. I truly encourage you to try this.
Find the joy in Mothering & embrace it, it's there & if you can't find it change your mindset.
Restore & embrace the joy.
Because in the end, we are the only ones who can give our children a happy Mother who loves life - be that Mumma. 





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Saturday, 23 January 2016

Toddler crafts for Australia Day {2016}

G'day mate...
It is Australia Day this coming Tuesday, so to celebrate LuLu & I thought we would share this super fun & very cute craft.
I am all for celebrating holidays - any holiday deserves celebration. Now that I am a Mumma of a little toddler I really like to make the effort that we do at least 1 little activity for each holiday we celebrate. We talk about the holiday while doing the craft and why we are making this certain thing & how it is relevant to the holiday... You can't get to in-depth with a toddler (well you can, but I think it may get a bit overwhelming for them), or expect them to know why we celebrate certain holidays with out talking to them first, so I think starting a conversation is good, even if they just take away a very basic point - I just think it's important & really great to just make them aware and just chat about it. This applies for any holiday. Books are a great starting point for conversations. 
So today we made frill neck lizards and a koala to decorate our house for Australia Day.
They are both simple crafts to do, the lizard does require a little bit of prep work but it isn't super hard. 
Koala.
You will need...

  • 1 large paper plate
  • 2 smaller paper plates (or cut some card board)
  • Grey paint (or black & white paint - I had no grey)
  • Googly eyes or a sharpie to draw on features
  • Glue & a stapler
  • Cotton wool, white crepe paper, tissue - something to create fluffy ears. I used crepe paper because I cannot stand the feel of cotton wool, so I don't own any.
Steps...
  1. Cut out or assemble face & ears. I stapled mine together, but you can glue them together if you prefer.
  2. Mix together black & white paint to create that perfect koala grey fur colour (mine is a touch too dark)
  3. Paint the entire thing. 
  4. Let dry. (I just pegged mine on the clothesline)
  5. Add glue to ears and fill with cotton wool or some white scrunched up crepe paper. Leave a small border around the ears... 
  6. Glue on googly eyes, or draw some on. 
  7. Paint or draw the nose on.
  8. Ta-da your little Aussie friend is complete. 


Lizard.
You will need...

  • Some cardboard, I used an old wrapping paper tube leftover from Christmas - this gave the lizard a more 3D type of effect because it was curved and sat up a bit. 
  • Sharpie/pencil/pen.
  • Stapler, sticky tape & glue.
  • Scissors.
  • Paint of your choice, you can either do a natural coloured lizard or some bright fun ones like we did.
  • Glitter or embellishments if you feel like bedazzling your lizard (that's a sentence I never imagined I would write)
  • Red pipe cleaner.
  • Cupcake liners/patty pans.
  • Googly eyes 
Steps...
  1. Draw your lizard on the cardboard with a pen. Now, draw a test lizard first so you can work out how you like your lizard - I kind of fluked my lizards. They kind of look like spoons with fat stomachs and tails - but I guess that's pretty much a lizard though! 
  2. Cut out your lizards.
  3. Lay your lizards on another piece of card board, draw legs on either side - use the lizard body as kind of a guide to how you want the legs to look. Mine are not perfect, but, at least my lizards have legs. If you really do not want to bother with legs, make it a legless lizard. (LOL) 
  4. Cut out your legs and staple or glue them to the lizard.
  5. Prepare your paint.
  6. Paint the lizards. 
  7. If you want to decorate your lizard, now is your chance - glitter, sequins - whatever you like - make the lizard shine. (This step is added in because no craft is complete in LuLu's opinion without a healthy coating of glitter - she makes me proud) 
  8. Let the lizard dry.
  9. Take 2 patty pans, flatten them out & place together with the plain sides facing in. Cut a small section out of them and a small hole in the middle. Attach around your lizards neck and staple, think of it like attaching a necklace. (This step is optional - you could make a lizard that isn't a frilly if you like) 
  10. Glue on eyes (or draw them on)
  11. Roll up pipe cleaner for tongue and attach with sticky tape or glue. (I attached mine under the lizards head) You could use a blue pipe cleaner & leave the frill off if you would like to make a blue tongue lizard.
  12. Admire your one of kind true blue lizard.
I thought I would also suggest some "Aussie" books that we really love and a few DVDs that I enjoyed as a child, we may watch one of these tomorrow or on Australia Day... (Possum Magic is another beautiful Australian book, I just don't own it... yet)
LuLu absolutely adores the Aussie "If you're happy & you know it" & "Goodnight Possum", we read them countless times everyday. I bought the "If you're happy & you know it" book for everyone I know with kids for Christmas, I think it's so sweet. I even sent it to a few friends in America!
Aussie classic - Skippy and a Disney movie based in Australia.
These crafts are not "pinterest perfect" and they do not have to be, this is just something fun I was doing with my daughter. I encourage you to have the same mindset, do not be focused with them being "perfect" - the main idea here is just spending time with our children, having fun, talking about Australian animals & Australia Day... I know my lizards look more on the funny side (that is my own fault, I am not a very skilled lizard artist), but we had a lot of fun making them and LuLu is very proud of them. She picked the colours for them & wanted them to be glittery - I would love to see your lizard & koala creations if you and your little love make these. Please tag me in your pictures on social media or send them to me! 
Well a storm is blowing in, so I best post this, turn off my Aussie classic music (Jimmy Barnes, Crowded House, Midnight Oil, Lee Kernaghan etc) & shut the computer down.
Have a great Australia Day! 
Night!





"We are all visitors to this time, this place. We are just passing through. Our purpose here is to observe, to learn, to grow, to love ... and then we return home."
 - Australian aboriginal proverb

Friday, 15 January 2016

Wife Life; Surviving night shift life with a toddler in Summer.

Hello dear friends!
How has your week been?
Our week has been quiet but busy... Trent has been on night shift this week, so our days are normally very quiet because he needs to rest. But after he leaves to work LuLu and I have been having some very busy afternoons.
So let's talk about shift work, it is very common today - almost all my friends have had some experience with it. Either they do or have done it, their parents did or their partners work shift work. Thankfully the shifts my husband works are family friendly hours. He gets home at good & reasonable hours and also has a good amount of days off. We are very fortunate, but the days he works are still hard on our little girl who loves her Daddy very much and always wants to be close to him.
The way we deal with - "survive" the nightshift side of shift work at this season of our life is just to keep busy. LuLu misses her Daddy a lot when he is working, doesn't matter if it's day or night shift or even if he has just popped out to the store to grab milk, she misses him anytime he isn't with her - so to help with that I try to keep our time together busy and with lots to do. 
Now Trent doesn't do FIFO or live away from us, he comes home at the end of every shift and I am very thankful for that - so I am not an expert on dealing with extended time away from my husband and LuLu away from her Daddy, but I thought the way we run our life may encourage or inspire one of you, especially if you are in a similar stage of life & situation to us.
Trent leaves for his nightshift in the early afternoon and he returns home just after midnight - so that gives him a good chunk of time to sleep when he first gets home and he has a few extra hours in the morning after LuLu and I wake up, then he is awake and spends some time with LuLu - this week they have been in the pool every day. It's been very hot here so the nice cool pool has been a real treat! 
Our little fish loves diving in the pool for her toys.
While they swim, I either pop out and do groceries, tidy up around the house, do laundry, catch up on my jobs, sometimes join them for a swim and then I make lunch. We have a big lunch when Trent is on nights and he takes leftovers for his dinner. 
LuLu has a nap after lunch and Trent sometimes does too and then he leaves for work... When LuLu wakes up we have afternoon tea (bowl of fruit) and she watches a small amount of TV.
After 3/3:30pm LuLu and I head outside. While Trent is on nightshift I use our afternoons to try and get lots of jobs done outside, especially when the weather is so nice & warm and the days are a bit longer.
I really enjoy getting a lot of jobs done in my day, it makes me feel good & satisfied knowing I did something today and chipped away at my always growing "to-do list". I also feel I am helping Trent out a lot by taking away some of the jobs that he often does. He is off working hard, so if I can mow the lawn to save him doing it on his days off - that makes me happy & that time on his days off can be better spent as family time or he can relax after working hard. I know I don't "need to do" these jobs, Trent would easily do them - but I like being helpful to him and that is also part of the calling of being a wife. (Genesis 2:18) 
LuLu loves outside time, so she thinks it is the best thing when we put on our sunscreen, hat & shoes and get ready to head outside.
This week we have so far; bathed the dogs, hosed the gardens & lawns everyday, pulled weeds out of the garden, washed the car, mowed the lawns, washed out the garbage bins - you know basic tidying up around the outside of the home and we also baked some cookies & painted our nails as a treat and the other afternoon my parents visited. So our afternoons have been jam packed & full of jobs but also fun. 
Pats for the freshly bathed doggies.
I always make sure that I when do a job I either try to include LuLu as much as possible or straight after I am finished we do something fun so LuLu feels involved and it is also enjoyable for her.
LuLu is now at the age where she can wander around the yard & play or follow and help me - she just loves being outside. Some jobs like washing out the bins, she obviously doesn't help with - but I make sure she has something to do - like have a bike to ride while I quickly get the job done. I always make sure I can watch her as I work. With washing the car, mowing the lawn, watering the plants, baking - these are jobs LuLu loves to help me with. She washes her Little Tikes pink truck & bike, she has her little mower, her own watering can and loves to help hose and she's a great little helper in the kitchen.
Our 2 little "big rigs" all washed.
Helping me out by hosing the plants.
While I mow the lawns LuLu has a ton of fun toys to play with outside, she has a trampoline, cubby, little climbing toy and I also set up her water table for her to play with. This week we have also been setting up the sprinkler with our tank water, LuLu has been having a ball running through it in the afternoon.
Water table fun... If LuLu is getting bored with the toys that come with the table, I just bring out some toys from inside. This Kewpie doll was mine when I was younger, and its the perfect dolly for her to bath.
Running through the sprinkler.
Bouncing on the bounce with Ninna... Grandparents, friends & family make great distractions too for little kids when a parent is off working...
One afternoon I got the hose out while we were playing on the trampoline - "The bouncy bouncy" - our wild & fearless little girl thought it was the best thing in the world. In no time at all she had worked out how to run & slide with her feet and she was having a ball! 
We often are outside until about 6pm'ish - then we go inside dirty & exhausted from our big afternoon of playing and doing some jobs. Our night routine is to have showers, eat dinner - which is often leftovers from lunch, tidy up and then read books while LuLu drinks her milk, clean our teeth and get ready for bed. 
Once LuLu is asleep I finish tidying up the house for the night, put the dishwasher on and then I either read, check my social media, text friends or watch a movie (often I am doing more than one of these at once - LOL) 
But that is how I survive night shift with a toddler in Summer. Every season of life and the year is different and brings new challenges - but I think at this stage of our life when LuLu is an active, outdoor loving little toddler and the weather is so nice & warm - having a busy afternoon is the best, for us. Your idea of a busy afternoon maybe visiting friends or family, doing crafts, heading out to do some shopping or heading to a local park or library. You have to make your time with your child, your own. I really like showing my daughter that it is great to get outside, help out, be active, enjoy nature, take care of our home, have fun & it's ok to get a bit dirty & messy when we are working. I also like having LuLu help when it's appropriate for her to help, I believe it is creating a good foundation for her to grow up knowing that it is important to help others & help with jobs around the house. (She is very good with her little jobs, if you would like a post on that let me know!)
The other thing I want to note here, is when we are outside in the afternoon my phone is inside. The photos included in this blog post are taken quickly on my little point & shoot underwater camera, mainly at the end of the afternoon... I try to make a conscious effort every day, especially when it is just the 2 of us to spend time with LuLu with no phone. I use the time after she is asleep to check & update my social media. I really do encourage you to try the same, even just 1 hour - leave the phone on charge. 
Our afternoons together have been really beautiful & wonderful this week. I especially love the time when we are just holding hands walking around hosing the plants and the grass, we have little chats, water fights, we laugh - it is just lovely. I love motherhood I really do and it's moments like that I will treasure forever. 
I know night shift/shift work can be stressful and overwhelming at times & it is hard on children when they miss their Dad/Mum, but I hope this posts encourages you. Even if you don't have to worry about shift work, I hope this post motivates you to at least just go outside this afternoon - set up the sprinkler and run through it! It doesn't matter how old you are, it's always fun!
Get outside and dance under the sprinkler, do it! I highly recommend doing it at sunset, even quickly set a timer on your camera and take a quick photo to remember the fun.
But in all seriousness, I truly hope this post helps someone. Last year our season of life was different, LuLu was younger and I couldn't get as much done - but now she's older and wants to help & would be outside every second of the day if I let her. So you have to do what you can at your season of life, but my biggest suggestion & tip for you if your partner does shift work - especially nights - is to stay busy. It can get lonely and boring and the hours can drag on if you let it - but I really find staying busy or having plans makes it so, so much easier. Make a plan, say "this afternoon, I am going to hose the garden" or mow the lawn, paint a picture, have a play date, do a messy craft outside, bake a treat, call my friend or watch a movie after the kids are asleep etc. 
I think getting outside with kids & having water play instantly makes them happier, so if you can do that - do it, especially if they are cranky! Also make life easier on yourself, make enough food at lunch so you can eat leftovers for dinner, it's easier to have leftovers than cook a whole new meal. 
I find having lots to do makes the time go faster and it makes the whole experience a lot easier on our daughter and also myself. We have night shift weeks that aren't so busy, fun & successful and I often find they drag on and aren't enjoyable and then I find myself getting down. But the days we plan to do something or even just get outside and play or do a small job, makes it a lot more enjoyable and pleasant. Having a very busy & active afternoon also makes us both tired and helps us sleep - so that is also a bonus. (I don't know about you but I don't sleep that great without my husband!)
Does your partner do shift work? How do you handle it? Do you have any tips? I would love to hear them, leave me a comment below or on my social media! Please also let me know if you would like to hear our week works when my husband is on day shift.
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Have a lovely afternoon, we are on our final night shift for this run, so I am off to wash down the outside windows & my brother is coming to visit and take LuLu swimming.
Enjoy your weekend...


Friday, 8 January 2016

Sunflowers, us, resolutions & realisations.

My first post of 2016...
I thought I would share some happy & sunny photos of the 3 of us and just have a chat...
Yesterday we were up early and headed out to a small town about an hour away from us, we were chasing sunflower fields... We found a field and pulled up for a quick family photo shoot, it was just us and the camera & tripod.
Sunflowers just make me happy, they are so bright and lovely to look at...
I really love how these photos turned out, we got some really cute ones. 

Now let's chat about the New Year....
I've headed into this year with the mindset of calm, simple & slow. That's how I want our life to mainly be, sure there are times in life when it's busy chaos - but I don't want my whole life to be like that - sometimes the madness, good & bad can't be avoided. But I want to have a life in which I can savour moments, a life where I am not stressed constantly & a life that is good for me & my family. 
So with that in mind, that is what has inspired this years resolutions... Not that my resolutions are anything crazy, new or out of the normal, they are pretty standard and the things I aim for and pray about daily... 

  • Mother to the best of my ability and with all my strength & heart.
  • Be the best wife I can.  
  • Live a slower & simpler life.
  • Buy less, choose well.
  • Be content, calm & stress less.
  • Be an encourager.
  • Become wiser.
  • Continue to be strong in my faith & live a life that leads others to God.
  • Live my best life.
Now of course I have a few little personal goals...

  • Go on a small family trip this year... At least one.
  • Hunt another deer. 
  • Start our veggie garden.
  • Make more from scratch.
  • Declutter & organise my home.
  • Sew a quilt - well, just sew something more complex than bunting or a cushion.  

2015 was a year a few things made me see life & just situations differently. So these are a few realisations I am bringing to 2016.

  • We cannot control life, God has a greater plan for us and every aspect of our life. We can either fight that and become discouraged & down or we can just trust in the Lord and know that we will eventually see his plan and he will provide for us what we truly need. Sometimes our idea of what we need and want isn't right and even though at the time we are sad things didn't work out, we eventually understand why it didn't.
  • Pain will happen, pain doesn't necessarily go away - you just learn to deal with it. And pain and hurt is ok, it happens to everyone on some varying degree, we are all carrying around pain & sadness - that's why it is sometimes good to be kind to everyone - we have no idea what anyone else is dealing with.
  • I've also realised we do not own anyone, their feelings or circumstances. Friends or family - they are their own people and will do what they do. We can offer words of advice or explain why their behaviour is perhaps causing us pain but we cannot make them do, say or act how we want or how we would. But sometimes people are just hurtful, selfish & not healthy to be around and it is ok to let people go - especially friends. Some friends/people are for seasons in our life and there to only teach us lessons and others are there for our whole life. 
  • Life is to be enjoyed, my idea of enjoying life maybe the total opposite to other peoples and that is ok. My life is mine and I am here to live my best life.
  • Being happy is a choice. Being sad is a choice. Sometimes it is ok to be sad, but don't dwell in it. Be sad, experience it and then pick yourself up and choose happiness. If you find yourself struggling to be happy or feel good, stand up and look around. Everything in our lives is a reason to be happy & grateful. Having a grateful heart makes a happy mind. Reading this blog, this means you own a piece of technology & have an internet connection, the tap you turn on for a glass of clean water, you are alive and most likely in fairly good health - each of those things as basic as they are are reasons to be grateful & happy. How you see your life effects your attitude and feelings.
What are your resolutions? Did 2015 make you have any big life realisations? I would love to hear!
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